The Counter Culture

A dignity strategy isn’t for one side or the other. We’ve all been a part of the culture of contempt, and we can each do our part to end it.

If there’s a group of people who embody what we call “the starving majority” of Americans who are exhausted by division and contempt, it’s our school leaders. Educators are exhausted by the contempt and dehumanization around us--by the polarization that makes school board meetings feel like a war zone, by the contempt that makes educators feel under attack, by the outrage that leads so many kids to feel disengaged and discouraged.  

And even more, since educators spend most of their energy and expertise on teaching children how to learn and contribute and get along with others, they’re already living in a kind of “counter culture.” Educators already try to create classrooms and communities that are the opposite of what our social media and political leaders model. Schools flourish when their climate is trusting and safe and challenging. They fall apart when it’s the opposite. In schools, dignity really matters. 

Nowadays, that’s tough. That’s why I was so excited to present the dignity movement to the Massachusetts Association of Superintendents of Schools last week, together with my colleagues Meghan Monroe and Kori Sanchez-Smith.

I was excited because I’m convinced that educators are predisposed to want to treat others with dignity. After all, educators are trained to treat every child with dignity and see in every child the capacity to learn—no exceptions! Kids don’t learn if they’re treated with contempt, teachers can’t teach in a culture of contempt, and families don’t flourish in communities of contempt. I anticipated that this group would be an enthusiastic audience.

But all that notwithstanding, I couldn’t have anticipated how inspired I would be by this gathering of Americans on the front lines. First, they opened the day with a short speech by Benson Chang, a rising senior at Norton High School. Benson is a member of a student leadership organization called “Project 351,” which identifies 8th graders and works with them to develop leadership and community building, and inclusion skills. Benson gave one of the best speeches I’ve heard in years—yes, that’s right, he was amazing. And he’s only 17!  (click here). His words caught me off guard:

“Passion is the feeling that stirs your heart; purpose is the choice to turn that feeling into action. Passion sparks the desire to make a difference; purpose is the daily commitment to see it through.”

“My purpose is clear: to be a light in dark places—to show up where hope feels scarce and lead with compassion, conviction, and courage…We may not be able to fix everything, but we can choose to be brave. Brave enough to show up, to stand up for what is right, and to build a world that reflects the dignity of every person.”

I could quote more of Benson’s speech about his commitment to inclusion, but read the whole speech; it’s only two pages. Suffice it to say, I was intimidated trying to follow him!  

I presented our message about dignity and the Dignity Index. But I also presented this slide that offered practical and actionable strategies for how we could work together:

The response was overwhelming. Meghan and Kori led a breakout session that was standing room only. Before the day was over, over a dozen school districts approached us about bringing the Dignity Index to their schools. Project 351 volunteered to train their young leaders in the Dignity Index and to expand its reach to other student leadership groups. And the entire organization of superintendents asked for more.

Clearly, these educators are starving for tools to make their schools into places of dignity, and clearly, they were inspired by Benson Chang to be brave in trying. And just as clearly, all of us at UNITE are going to be brave in trying to support them.

And the rest of us have a role to play, too. We all have a choice: we may not be able to change the dominant culture, but we can each create a counterculture. We can each bring more dignity to our homes and our workplaces. We can each bring more dignity to our faith communities and our civic organizations. We can each meet contempt with dignity, especially when it’s hard. 

Start wherever you are. We don’t have to wait for leaders to show us how; we are the leaders. That’s how countercultures work. A small group—sometimes only a few—decides that a new way is needed. And they live that new way. And they lead that way. And eventually, others take note.  

Thanks to all the educators in America who are leading. We’re all taking note!

Tim

One final note: we are each endowed with dignity, and sometimes, that dignity shines through most at the beginning. Last week, Linda and I were blessed to be with our daughter, Rose, as she gave birth to their third child, a stunningly beautiful girl, and her husband, Joel. She is life at dawn, and in her, we have a new dawn in our family. Wherever life carries her tender soul, may she find love and goodness, and may she bring it too. 


We’re SO excited to announce that Dr. Donna Hicks will be the Keynote Speaker for the 2025 Dignity Leadership Summit!


Dignity Updates

Karren and Tami spent time last week in Oklahoma’s Sequoyah State Park, where they met with the directors of several National Guard sponsored youth education programs, teaching them how to bring the Dignity Index into their programs. 


Tim, Meghan, Kori presenting to the Massachusetts Association of Superintendents of Schools last week. 


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